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HireMyVA Podcast 25- This is so foreign to me – who am I to do this?

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Dave Braun


Well, welcome again everybody to the HireMyVA Team and Business Building Podcast, where we help you to reclaim your freedom through hiring and thriving with virtual assistants without breaking the bank, without breaking your bank. And I am Dave Braun and I’m here with my partner, great friend and partner in this, Larry Broughton. How are you doing Larry?

Larry Broughton


Hello, how  are you David?

Dave Braun


I’m doing fantastic.

Larry Broughton


What a week it’s been, man.

Dave Braun


Yeah, crazy. Crazy.

Larry Broughton


But I just want you to know, I’ll say it publicly. I love you. I’m glad you’re in my life and yeah, you just need to know that. Thank you.

Dave Braun


Thank you. And I’m glad you are too looking forward to in our next a Wednesday night meeting, huh?

Larry Broughton


All right.

Dave Braun


Well, without further ado, here is our next question that we’ve had and thought that I could really kind of a false belief. This is so foreign to me, who am I to do this? Meaning, you know, managing folks and hiring people and leading. I mean, it’s so foreign to me who am I to do this?

Larry Broughton


You’re right. This is kind of a, more of a mental blocking. And we had a similar one recently about this too. Right? How about if we reframe that, thinking, that stinking thinkin, thinking, who are you not to do this? Right? Why not you? Absolutely. I’ve done some pretty nutty things in my life. You know, whether it was earning a black belt in martial arts or going into the Green Berets and you know, and both were like way beyond what I thought my ability really was. Cause I struggle sometimes with imposter syndrome a little bit, like, who am I? But what I need to train my thinking is about is why not me? And if someone else has done it, it can be done.

Dave Braun


That’s right. Yeah.

Larry Broughton


So why not me? You know, am I the smartest person? No. Do I have the most resources? No. Do I have the best network? No. Did I go to the best schools? You know? No, but sometimes the person who just grinds it out more than anybody else, sometimes it’s the last person standing, right. That success finds. Right. And we’re learning about this in this economy that we’re in right now. Right? So why not you, truly, why not you? Just don’t give up. But I don’t, I don’t want people to get stuck in this, you know, for awhile, every meme you would see on social media was never, never, never quit. Right? Oh yeah. I get that. I get that mentality about being tenacious, but sometimes you need to separate that thinking about never, never, never quit, with enough is enough. Yes. Right. There’s a subtle nuance. Then we can talk about that in the community, which by the way, I think one of the most important elements, one of the most valuable elements of this whole program is the community. So I love that people asking these questions, but Dave, I’m going to hand it over to you before I kind of filibuster this whole thing.

Dave Braun


I’m filibuster. I know how I go. I know. I didn’t know. I didn’t know you were Senator. Well, you know, the, you know, the, the question is this is so foreign to me. And that just triggered in my mind, the fact that there’s so many things that were foreign to me to, you know, foreign to everybody. It’s like, you’re a baby. When you’re a baby, you know, walking was foreign to you. Right. You got up and you stumbled and got bruised, but you kept going. Riding a bike was, you know, and driving a car. So many things were foreign. I mean, even starting this podcast, right, you got to do it the first time it was foreign and you get to get a little bit of help. You get some mentors along the way, and it’s not foreign after a while. So you know what ends up happening, I think.

Dave Braun


And we talk about this in the course and I’ll just do it really briefly here is that there’s a mental shift that we’ve got to make when we’re learning. And we’ve got to really realize where we’re at and be uncomfortable with most of those stages. So like the, and the, and I remember, I think it was Noah St. John and a couple of other folks, maybe Jack Canfield talked about this and give credit where credit’s due. And they say really, where we start off when we’re learning something is we start off with unconscious incompetence, meaning we don’t have a clue. What? We don’t know. It looks easy. So I remember when we talked about driving a car, I remember as a kid, you know, my dad would drive and oh my gosh, dad, you’re driving terrible. I could drive better than you. And I’m like 13 or 14, you know, a teenager who thinks he knows everything.

Dave Braun


Right. I was unconsciously incompetent. I didn’t know how difficult it was. Well then guess what happened when I get by the wheel, behind the wheel for the first time I’m like, oh my gosh, I, now I know what, I don’t know. It’s like, wait a second. I got to put on the gas. Hey, I was learning how to drive a stick shift. So when you put the clutch in, put on the gas, you gotta, you gotta, you know, shift the thing. You gotta turn your blinkers on. Look in the mirror, seatbelt. I mean, I’m like, gosh, there’s so many things to think about. Yeah. Right. Well then after a little bit after you practice and you learn with a mentor, of course you start feeling, hey, I think I know what I’m doing, but you still have to think about it. Right. You still have to think about, okay, let me go through my mental checklist to doing this, this and this and this.

Dave Braun


Right. But then pretty soon over the course of time driving a car, you become unconsciously competent. Meaning you just get in the car and your brain is thinking about other things, but then unconsciously, your subconscious takes over. And then you automatically look in the mirror and, you know, start the car and all that kind of stuff. And you don’t even think about it. So you become unconsciously competent, but that takes a little bit of time. At the beginning it’s all foreign to you. But once you invest the time with proper mentoring, you will get to that point where you can become unconsciously competent.

Larry Broughton


Yeah. Those neuropathways have to be created. Right. And you’re right. And that’s just comes from doing it over and over and over and over again. And it’s the same in sports. It’s learning how to drive a car, same thing in business.

Dave Braun


And I think one of the important things to do though, is you want to make sure you create good habits, meaning you want to do it the right way over and over and over again, If you are doing it the wrong way over and over and over again, you’re, you’re habits. bad creating

Larry Broughton


Well, do you remember when Tiger Woods, he wanted to change his swing, right? He, you know, he’d won all these championships and then something happened. And so he got, he’s thought he was going to change his swing. And he accepted, hey, these next two years, I’m going to suck. But I had to make this investment in the long term. Right. And so it’s not easy. And it is part of the problem, Dave is when we learn things on our own and I’ve got the same problem, I learned things the wrong way, but it was good enough.

Dave Braun


Right. That’s a great point.

Larry Broughton


But then when I got a mentor, I had to change those bad habits. Right. If I wanted to actually go to the next level, which meant it was going to be difficult, I was probably going to, my performance was going to lag for some, some period of time. Yeah. Do me a favor, read the question one more time for me.

Dave Braun


So the, the, the thinking is this is so foreign to me. Who am I to do this? Right. Oh, let me, let me give you an example of something. I, as one of my mentors, it’s like, I totally disagree with them on this is that, you know, so many people before going on to camera, they’re very uncomfortable, right? It’s like, oh, the last thing I want to do is appear on camera. I don’t want to take videos of myself. Right? So some of the people in this group that I was, I was in and they were saying, well, how do you handle it? And some of them say, well, I just never watched myself. So I just do it. And I’m done with it. And I’m like, really? You never like, get any feedback on what you’re doing. It didn’t make any sense to me. You’re in a business. You want to improve what you do. You want to be better. Shouldn’t you, at some point, maybe you don’t have to watch what you’re doing, but you have somebody watch what you’re doing, right? Yeah.

Larry Broughton


I think you have to watch. That’s just my personal opinion. It’s like watching the, the tapes after a football game, if you’ve ever played football, right. You got to go back and watch the tapes. What do they call it nowadays? They don’t do tapes anymore. Watching the video or whatever it is of the previous game. I know that hurts to watch it, but it’s like anything, the more you do it, the more comfortable you get with it. And you’ll find that over time, you can actually detach from it and say, oh, I used to do that all the time. I used to like, go back and analyze the keynote speeches they did and listened to the audience. Oh, they responded exactly how I thought they were going to, or that one absolutely landed flat. That was a waste. Got to rework that, right. Sometimes we have to coach ourselves. Right. But who am I? Well, why not you? I agree. Why not you? You got this. What’s that.

Dave Braun


It can be them. Yeah. It can be you. Why not you?

Larry Broughton


It can be. Yeah. My twin brother and I used to, and he still does martial arts, but we used to talk about this all the time with, with our students. And that is this, only those who can see the invisible can do the impossible. Right. Well, what does that mean? You got to have a vision. And so if you say, why not me when you’re already putting a threshold on your performance, you know, but if you say, why not me? Why can’t I be standing on that top rung of the martial arts tournament? You know, why not? Why can’t this be a success? Why not me? Other people have done it. I can do it too. Yeah. And so I love this question a lot. It’s not specifically about hiring a VA, but it’s more about mindset and about success. These are powerful questions and I’m just gonna encourage you. Why not you, someone else has done it.

Dave Braun


Well, yeah, we’ve had, we’ve had people in our program who had zero experience and who had actually failed at things before, but they came to us and now they’re doing well

Larry Broughton


In, in so many areas and not just on hiring a VA, but having a successful relationship with their spouse overcoming dependencies. Right. I mean, you and I had a conversation regarding their past coaching client and without giving it away who attributes the coaching program to saving his life, saving his marriage. Right. Because a lot of it’s right up here, right. Between here, right. Between your ears. Right. So why not you? Why not you? Just think about the legacy that you’re creating here. Stop the stinkin thinkin.

Dave Braun


All right. Anything else, sir?

Larry Broughton


No, I don’t think so. I got sidetracked. I’m sorry. People.

Dave Braun


Oh, that’s good. That’s good. I need that reminder too. All the time. You know, that’s one of the great things about doing this podcast with you is like, we’re talking about stuff. It’s like reminding myself, I need to get rid of my stinkin thinking. Yeah. There’s other things that I need to think about is why, why can’t I do that? I’m limiting myself, artificially limiting myself.

Larry Broughton


Yeah. Yeah. I can’t even, I’ve lost count of the number of times that you and I are talking on these podcasts and I write myself a little note, like, oh yeah. I used to do that. Why am I not doing that any longer?

Dave Braun


Maybe I need to go listen to the podcasts again.

Larry Broughton


That’s good for me too. Yeah. So thanks for keep asking these questions. And I’m going to encourage you no matter where you finding this, if you’re part of the HireMyVA, family, go to the community, ask these questions and serve other people. Because there are a lot of people who are asking questions and sometimes, you know, Dave, you and I will respond and no one else will. Serve! Help other people. Something happens to our life, to the universe of the stars when we serve other people first. And I got sidetracked there, but help other people with their problems. And then when you’re having a challenge, you’ll find that if people are willing to come help you as well. So go to the community. I think that’s one of the most powerful elements of this entire program. And I’m glad that this, this topic came up. So, Dave, thank you. I appreciate you that you are like developing the program and said, Larry, we gotta do this. I said, yeah, you’re right. And that you are just showing so much leadership in this. So thank you, brother. I appreciate you

Dave Braun


You are welcome. It’s, it’s a lot of fun and people really do need to get freedom and I need to get it too, you know? Yeah, absolutely. We all do. Yeah. Well, thank you folks for joining us today. Remember though, that building a team is the way to reclaim your freedom. And of course, we’re here to help you. Larry talked about our course, the community. We are here for you guys right now. We’d love you to do three things. We’d really appreciate it if you’d do it really quickly, number one, subscribe to the podcast if you haven’t done it, all right. Number two, give us a rating and we’d love it. If you’d be a five-star rating, but of course it doesn’t have to be, have to be, yes it does, or we’ll come and get you through this podcast. Then number three, go to HiremyVA.com for more information on our course and community, you can see all that you would get in it.

Dave Braun


You can see, you can hear about some stuff with people, you know, just, just go to it and you can get all kinds of information there. So remember though, even without experience, you’ll learn how to prepare for, a hire end thrive, which is really the most important part of our course, thrive with virtual assistants. Larry and I are continuing to help folks. We love these questions, keep them coming. We’d love to help you too. And we only do that by you guys giving us your questions. So give us questions folks. But anyway, just go to HiremyVA.com for more information and for the latest and greatest.

Larry Broughton


And I love this question this week. So do yourself a favor. Do the world a favor, go do something significant today. All right, folks, go get ’em! Bye.

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